i hate having different opinions than the people around me. i try my hardest to understand and accept their ideas, but i just think that i am right and they are wrong; that i am the compassionate and understanding one and they are just ignorant and arrogant. (which i think 90% of the time is true when surrounded by teenagers.) but it’s just so difficult to just accept other people’s opinions and just move on. because then we can’t talk about the subject without somebody’s feelings getting hurt. and it’s just so fucking hard. even on tumblr, supposedly the land of caring and understanding, i can’t find my niche of people that think like me. this fucking blows. i’ll never find where i belong.
Well, when we’re talking about opinions, no one is right, and no one is wrong, since opinions are by definitions things that you believe, because you’ve been taught to. Contrary to popular belief, an opinion is not an idea. Opinions fluctuate and change throughout time. They are products of what we’ve heard and what’ve been told, and they never really have solid basis. That’s why discussing opinions always seems like you’re running into a wall. There is no real thought behind an opinion, just subjective acceptance of something you think is right because it was told by someone you trust. That is what opinions are based on. Trust. You trust that the information you’ve been given is true. So it’s normal that you hate having different opinions than others. You can’t convince people and people can’t convince you either, because you’re sure you’re right, and they’re sure they’re right. But as I said, opinions fluctuate, so you can have an opinion know, and think the opposite a month later.
Then there’s the idea. An idea is something you’ve thought trough, something you’ve pondered and questioned. It’s easier to discuss ideas, because they have objective basis, contrary to opinions. When someone tries to discuss an idea using an opinion, chances are the opinion will not survive the conversation. Of course, that doesn’t mean that one is wrong and the other is right. It just means that one has more basis and thought than the other. If someone has an idea, you can’t convince them that they’re wrong. You can only nourish they’re knowledge of the subject and make their view wider. A person will always have the same idea throughout their life. Ideas nourish each other, while opinions clash one another.
So really, don’t feel like you don’t belong somewhere because of your opinions. Everyone has them. I personally don’t accept incest, for instance. Subjectively speaking, I think it’s wrong. But objectively speaking, I have to admit there is nothing wrong with it. I just have an opinion, based on my religious upbringing and society’s view of the thing, and it goes against an anthropology-based idea. Chances are, in a few years, my view of it will have completely changed. That doesn’t mean it has to. Again, this is just my case. You don’t have to feel like your opinions need to change because of something.