going with my friend renee this weekend into the woods or some shit. hopefully it’ll help me clear my mind. i’m just all sorts of worked up and depressed and ugh.
Hey there, just saw your post. Like I said last time, I’m single and always have been, so most of the advice I can give you is probably extremely shallow.
First, I just want to know if you’ve ever talked to him about your feelings. By talk, I mean really sit down and explain what you feel calmly, preferably when you’re not feeling overwhelmed. Not necessarily about your depression, maybe just tell him you’d like him to be with you in a way or another when you’re feeling down. It’s important you tell him this calmly. I’ve learned throughout the years, that during arguments, people tend to stay on there position, and not really listen. Emotions kind of take over, and makes it nearly impossible to understand the other’s point of view. So, if you want to make him understand, the best way to do it is probably when you’re both not feeling tired or bothered or anything. If he really doesn’t want to talk about it and makes a deal on looking annoyed, it’s best to let it go for the moment, because nothing will come out of that. I can’t really give much more advice about that, because I seriously have no idea how to deal with such a situation. You guys have to talk. Tell him what you wrote here, and discuss it calmly.
Now, about how you’re coping with him and his odd priorities. Try not to blame him too much. It’s hard, I know, it hurts, I know, but blaming just hurts more. He says you should try to see things from his perspective, well, that’s not exactly what you should do. You should actually try to look at things from an outside perspective. That’s what I usually do when I have issues with people. It helps you think better and it makes things far far less painful. If it’s too hard, the best thing to do is talk to someone who can actually help with some relationship advice (someone not like me), someone who actually knows what your relationship really is like (someone again not like me). Okay I seriously suck with this advice thing. It’s kind of frustrating. Ugh.
I really really don’t think I was of any help, know this: I’m sure your boyfriend loves you, no matter what. He might be acting selfishly, but I seriously doubt he’s going to leave you. You two just need to talk it out. Talk about what you both feel. Talking is very important in a relationship. At least that’s what I think, since I’ve actually never been in a relationship before… Oh Jeez, I’m so bad at this…